A Letter to Siblings

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” – Galatians 6:2

When we talk about autism, the focus often falls on parents and caregivers. Yet, there is another group deeply affected but often overlooked: the siblings. Growing up alongside a brother or sister with autism brings unique joys, challenges, and responsibilities.

For many siblings, childhood looks a little different. They may learn to be patient, protective, and resilient at a younger age. But they may also feel left out, confused, or even burdened by expectations. This article is for those siblings — to remind you that your experiences matter, and that you too deserve understanding and care.

A Sister’s Story

“My younger brother, James, was diagnosed with autism when I was eight. At first, I didn’t understand why he didn’t talk like other kids or why he sometimes had big meltdowns in public. I remember feeling embarrassed, even angry, when my parents couldn’t come to my school events because they were with him. But over time, I began to see the world through his eyes. The little victories — when he learned a new word, or when he let me hold his hand — became my biggest joys. I realized that though my childhood looked different, it also taught me compassion and strength that many people don’t learn until much later in life.”

Stories like this remind us that siblings walk a delicate balance: they love deeply, they sacrifice quietly, and they grow in ways that aren’t always easy to explain.

A Word of Encouragement

If you are a sibling of someone with autism, know this: your feelings are valid. It’s okay to feel tired, jealous, or even angry sometimes. It’s also okay to feel proud, protective, and joyful. Your journey may look different, but it is no less important.

The Bible offers us words of encouragement that speak to this journey:

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” – Galatians 6:2

As a sibling, you may carry more than most people your age — responsibilities, emotions, and quiet sacrifices. But in walking alongside your brother or sister, you are living out a kind of love that reflects Christ Himself.

You Are Not Forgotten

Autism doesn’t just shape the life of a parent — it shapes the entire family. Siblings are a crucial part of this story, carrying lessons of empathy, strength, and unconditional love. If you are a sibling reading this, know that your journey matters. Your sacrifices and joys are seen not only by your family but by God, who strengthens you day by day.